Finding Joy

Powerful post from my wife that points us all to look unto Jesus for true joy!

Life Is A Beautiful Mess

I was reading a blog written by Ann Voskamp

and this particular paragraph

grasped my heart…

Written By Ann Voskamp…..

You can have every excuse — but let nothing excuse you from joy.

Excuses to avoid community can rightly excuse you from joy.

Why is it so hard to let people love you?

How do you let imperfect love get into your imperfect places?

How many times do I have to learn it — The shields you use to protect yourself can become the bars that imprison you alone.

There’s no other way to really live. Risking pain is the only way to risk really living — and the only other option is to live safe and dead.

I read it…

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To Our Sweet Mckenna

From my wife’s blog: Our blessing and prayer for our second child, Mckenna!

Life Is A Beautiful Mess

Scott and I are privileged to have 4 beautiful children, and because we do,

sometimes it’s tough for them to get the individual attention

they desire.

We have done our best to spend one on one time with each of them.

Scott does “daddy/daughter dates” and “boys day out”

and I try to do

“girls day out” and hope to do a “mom/son date”

with our young son soon.

Still, most of what we do is usually as

a family.

Although we have tons of fun all together

and we are making wonderful family memories,

we still want

our children to know that they are important to us as individuals.

They are each unique and possess beautiful qualities

that make them who they are.

Therefore, my husband and I have decided to

write each of them

a “blessing” individually to honor each one.


Our sweet McKenna, our pleasant surprise. We could not…

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To Our Dearest Caitlyn

From my wife’s blog: Our blessing and prayer for our oldest child, Caitlyn

Life Is A Beautiful Mess

Scott and I are privileged to have 4 beautiful children, and because we do,

sometimes it’s tough for them to get the individual attention

they desire.

We have done our best to spend one on one time with each of them.

Scott does “daddy/daughter dates” and “boys day out”

and I try to do

“girls day out” and hope to do a “mom/son date”

with our young son soon.

Still, most of what we do is usually as

a family.

Although we have tons of fun all together

and we are making wonderful family memories,

we still want

our children to know that they are important to us as individuals.

They are each unique and possess beautiful qualities

that make them who they are.

Therefore, my husband and I have decided to

write each of them

a “blessing” individually to honor each one.


To Caitlyn, our first born child, our blessing.


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Our Homeschool Journey: The Beginning

Great post from my wife on our homeschooling journey!

Life Is A Beautiful Mess


this is our second year of homeschool.

Last year, 2 of our children were enrolled in an online public school

and our youngest was not yet school age.

Our oldest daughter started out in the online public school last year as well

but a series of events

led us to remove her and begin legitimately homeschooling her.

Thus, schooling at home had begun!

This year, however, we have prayerfully decided to

homeschool all 4 of our children.

I threw the “idea” back and forth for a couple of months.

My husband and I discussed it a lot and prayed about it even more!

Here’s the thing, every time I felt myself getting

close to saying

yes, let’s do it!”

I felt

gut-sick and dizzy…

you know the feeling you have when you’re at an

amusement park and your getting ready

to board

a crazy rollercoaster

and you’re excited but major nervous…

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This Is Real Life

Great post by my wife where she talks about #RealLife!

Life Is A Beautiful Mess

I heard a statement the other day

that really caught my attention and has stayed on my mind.

The person was basically saying

that the things that we

share on social media are the “best” of our lives,

the things we want people to see.

We don’t share

the “regular” day to day things and we sure enough don’t share

our mess

for everyone on our “friends” list to see.

What does this actually do though?

It really can give a false sense of what

Real Life

really looks like from day to day and how we live through

the good and the bad.

This can especially affect those of the

 younger generation that

see everything we post

and believe me….

they are watching!


we share the pictures of our well put together children

playing at the park

or doing something super cute.

We share about all the sweet and…

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God trumps ministry


Yes that’s right, God trumps ministry!  Please don’t misunderstand me when I say this.  I strongly believe in a church who is missions/ministry minded, a church who is reaching out in service and outreach.  This is God’s plan for the world…for the church to be His body to impact the world around them.  I also firmly believe that the most important thing we can do is seek after God.  Our great task and privilege as believers is to continually seek after God.  To know God, to walk with God in a daily living relationship!  Above even ministry, outreach, teaching, preaching, singing, organizing, this stands alone and is the peak of the mountain…to know God.

In His high priestly prayer Jesus prayed…(John 17:3) “And this is life eternal, that they might know thee the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom thou hast sent”.  This was the cry of Christ to the Father, very simply that we might know Him!  Listen to the plea of Paul…(Philippians 3:10) “That I may know him, and the power of his resurrection, and the fellowship of his sufferings, being made conformable unto his death”.   Earlier in the text of the same chapter Paul states all of his accomplishments and religious qualifications and then quickly dismisses them for the treasure of knowing Christ.  He counts all as loss that he may win Christ.  This is the real treasure, this is the pearl of great price!  To belong to Him and He to us!

Tread with me out to the tabernacle of the congregation where there is a meeting taking place between God and Moses…listen in as the creature talks to the Creator.

(Exodus 33:11-18)…

11 And the Lord spake unto Moses face to face, as a man speaketh unto his friend. And he turned again into the camp: but his servant Joshua, the son of Nun, a young man, departed not out of the tabernacle.

12 And Moses said unto the Lord, See, thou sayest unto me, Bring up this people: and thou hast not let me know whom thou wilt send with me. Yet thou hast said, I know thee by name, and thou hast also found grace in my sight.

13 Now therefore, I pray thee, if I have found grace in thy sight, shew me now thy way, that I may know thee, that I may find grace in thy sight: and consider that this nation is thy people.

14 And he said, My presence shall go with thee, and I will give thee rest.

15 And he said unto him, If thy presence go not with me, carry us not up hence.

16 For wherein shall it be known here that I and thy people have found grace in thy sight? is it not in that thou goest with us? so shall we be separated, I and thy people, from all the people that are upon the face of the earth.

17 And the Lord said unto Moses, I will do this thing also that thou hast spoken: for thou hast found grace in my sight, and I know thee by name.

18 And he said, I beseech thee, shew me thy glory

Notice the thread weaved in the conversation?  Moses wanted one thing, to know God, to see the glory of God!  Forget about the land flowing with milk and honey, forget about the promise, forget about everything, if God is not with us it means nothing!  What we need as a people, as a church is to apply this to our lives today.  Forget about outreach, forget about missions, forget about ministry, if God is not with us it means nothing.  If there is not a real, living relationship involved…what are we really offering people?  Do we seek for this, or de we seek for our ministries to be great?  Do we desire that God be known, or our names be known?  What we need is communion over commotion, purity over popularity, Holy ghost manifestation over human manipulation, more prophets and fewer profits, more gospel and fewer games. 

We as the church can do a lot of things and never really do anything!  We can say a lot of things and never really say anything!  Jesus commends the church in Revelation for her works, then says…”I have somewhat against you, you have left your first love”  Let us return to our first love, then and only then our works will be in their proper place and will be effective in reaching a lost world.  When our God is placed above our activity, our activity then is just a natural overflow of our already thriving relationship.  When we love Christ, we will love the lost.  Let us be something in God first, then let us attempt something for God.  May we be people who are led by the Spirit and grounded in the scripture, full of the Holy ghost and faith!  If this becomes the case, we may just turn the world upside down.

In Christ,

Scott Neville


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Words That Build Walls

A wise word from my wife…

Life Is A Beautiful Mess


I’m not very good at speaking words.

I get this awkward knot in my throat and my hands become


I sometimes stumble over the words

that seem to spew out of my mouth before my mind processes them.


I do much better at writing words.

I suppose that has something to do with the fact that I can think

about what it is that I’m trying to say and then I’m able to re-read

what I have written. 

If it doesn’t sound just right

I can

erase and re-write it, quite simple.


But once you speak something, there is no erasing.

It’s out there, it’s so final.


Our words have power!


In the book of proverbs it says that

“death and life are in the power of the tongue.”


We can lift someone up or tear them down with our words!


Written words have power also.


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It’s Just The Beginning

Reblog from my wife!

Life Is A Beautiful Mess

I wrote this blog at the beginning of last year.

It was our first year of homeschool

and I had no idea

what to expect. We are still new to this

as this is only our second year

of homeschool.

We are all so excited to get started

and absolutely can’t wait to see what sort of learning adventures

we’ll have this year!

The following is the blog from the beginning of last year:

A few weeks ago we began a new journey here at the Neville house…


It has been very challenging (yes, already lol)

but also very rewarding

and it’s only been almost 3 weeks.

I must admit that it only took me a couple of days before I thought to myself

 “what am I doing and why aren’t my children in school?”

I’m just so afraid of “messing up.”

And I can tell you that I…

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Because We All Matter

My wife’s blog! Describes our decision to start a home bible study. Check it out!

Life Is A Beautiful Mess

A short time ago, my husband and I were discussing future plans for our family.

Our biggest goal on the list was to find a new house and move.

We have lived in our home for 11 years now and have made wonderful memories

thus far

and although the house seemed much bigger when we moved

in as a family of 3

(and we are now a family of 6),

that is not the primary reason we decided that we wanted to move away.

We both had noticed that recently

there was a decline taking place in our area

and we just felt that it would be best to find a better place to live.

We noticed people hiding away in the

overgrown basketball court at the end of the street

doing drug deals and who knows what else,

we noticed more unattended children wandering our block and more police

cars driving through the area.


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A call to husbands


Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it

Now this is an extraordinary statement made by the apostle Paul. He exhorts the church at Ephesus on several christian principles and of these, an address made to husbands. This is a challenge to all men and scriptural command to be applied practically in our lives. The christian faith leaves no area of our lives untouched, but seeks the highest good in cultivating not just the external man but the very character of the man. The gospel strikes at the core of behavior when it takes out a heart of stone and replaces it with a heart of flesh. When a man is made new by Christ, it is just a matter of time until he genuinely desires to love in the most pure sense. His love is no longer a shallow love that loves to receive but rather a love that seeks to give unconditionally with no strings attached. Very simply he no longer lives for himself, but first for his Lord and then for his wife.

This is the glorious institution of marriage that God has ordained. That man and woman shall cleave together and they shall be one flesh. The intimacy of two lives knit together and founded upon the love of God. More specifically the love of Christ for His church. I believe this is vital in understanding the union between man and woman. Adam was created in the garden to enjoy paradise and better yet to walk with God in daily fellowship. God in His plan creates a woman to accompany Adam and they would experience a unique relationship build upon trust, truth, and love. This would mirror the covenant relationship Christ shares with the church and all who belong to it. It would also mirror the nature of the trinity. Eve would not appear out of thin air but be taken from the side of Adam and God almighty would be the head of the relationship. God would lead Adam just as Adam would in turn lead his wife. We have this wonderful picture of the Triune God consisting of Father, Son, and Spirit.

Understanding this, how are we as men suppose to care for our wives? The answer is…like Christ cares for His. Jesus in scripture is pictured as the husband and we are His bride…the church. Not the buildings that we have been accustomed to calling the “church” but the church, all of those who have been redeemed from Genesis until the coming of the Christ. Those who call on the name of the Lord and trust in His love. We are loved with a love that is incomprehensible, it is as vast as a shoreless and bottomless ocean. Look unto that great letter to the Romans(Chp 8:25 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?) The bride answers with a resounding…NOTHING! Absolutely nothing! Allow Paul to explain…Romans 8:37-39 (Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord!)

To us men that sit around with a bag of Doritos watching ESPN for hours(guilty) this becomes a daunting task and one that is very hard to measure up to. We men are called to a higher calling than just getting up everyday breathing, walking around, doing as little as possible, loving as little as possible. We are called to actively engage into the lives of our wives, to cherish them, to adore them, to protect them, to honor them, to respect them, and the list goes on. We may look at life as mundane, filled with aimless tasks, but it is loving as Christ that turns the mundane into majesty, and aimless tasks into God appointed ones! Some men may object, “when my wife starts giving me respect, I’ll give her respect” When my wife starts loving me like that, I’ll love her back” This is fallacy and partly self worship. Our love then becomes conditioned on what can others including my wife do for ME so I can in turn do for them. We look to Romans again for help with this…Romans 5:8 (But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us). Extraordinary concept, that I can choose to love no matter what as been done or said to me whether good or bad. This one truth from God’s word could have prevented many broken homes. And let us not forget to mention the only scripture we men seem to have memorized…(Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord) Let’s not mistake this as a pass to dominate and dictate our wives. Knowing first for this to be applied we must  as men and leaders submit to God and then we can rightly lead with humility. Our wives will lovingly and most likely be thrilled to follow as we would follow the Lord. When we love as Christ loves, when we initiate love, when we serve, our wives will naturally follow our lead and they will feel safe in doing so.

God has so designed marriage to benefit both man and woman, to create a “one flesh” intimacy that will enable the two to become one! This happens on every level, physically, emotionally, spiritually. This is why sex outside of martial context is so damaging, something that is to be shared only between two people who will spend the rest of their lives together! This is why men must shun vain pursuits of the flesh such as pornography, drugs,  affairs, lying, things that will ultimately get between him and his bride.  My confession is that I have failed in numerous ways and in need of grace daily to properly live this out. My wife Rachael I’m sure can attest to this. Thankfully God has provided His spirit to help us! As I seek to love my wife in such a way I urge us all to look to Christ. Young men who are not married, patiently wait for God’s best for you, husbands rise to the high and holy calling of loving your bride as Christ loves His bride and gave Himself for her!

In Christ,

Scott Neville



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